The Silent Struggle

“The heart of another is a dark forest, always, no matter how close it has been to one’s own.” -Willa Cather

When is the last time you thought about what someone else might be going through?

A “silent” struggle is a difficulty that people would not expect someone to have based on what they perceive that person to be. We often make assumptions about a person’s capabilities depending on the information that we know and can assume… It is always a mystery to us, until told or blatantly obvious, what a person has experienced.

Basically, you can’t ever assume you know what a person has been through until you take the time to hear their story—and that’s if they’re telling you the truth.  

I have created a podcast (which you can listen to by clicking on the Soundcloud link below) that showcases two amazing women who’ve been battling through hardships that many would consider unexpected; Hasina Foye and Kelechi Ubozoh.

Hasina, a high school student, close friend and fellow Girls Write Now mentee, speaks about her life as the child of two deaf adults (CODA), the many difficulties that comes with growing up as the only hearing person in her household, and her struggles with learning how to communicate with others. In my second interview, Kelechi Ubozoh, a poet, mental health advocate, singer and suicide survivor, dives into her struggle as an African American woman with mental health issues and her efforts to eliminate the stigma associated with mental illness.

A Silent Struggle is is dedicated to those who have lost themselves in the pains of others so much that they have forgotten to address that of their own. To be able to listen to the stories of these wonderful women was an inspiring opportunity that I am grateful to have been involved with. In fact, that’s a huge part of the reason why I started this blog. The Cicada Effect was created in order to share triumphs and hardships to inspire someone to fight for the happiness they deserve. If you have a story you feel that others may benefit from and would like to share with The Cicada Effect, please send me a message through this blog’s contact page.



  • For more information on CODA, please visit
  • You can also support to protect the rights of the American deaf and hard-of-hearing community by visiting the National Association of the Deaf at   
  • You can currently see Kelechi in the award-winning documentary The S Word, which follow the lives of suicide attempt survivors. To learn more about the film and Kelechi’s work, visit  
  • If you or someone you know is suffering from from depression or suicidal thoughts, please call the National Suicide Prevention Helpline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255).

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